剖腹生子 Pt.2

一般上懷孕的女性情緒上都會是較為緊張，在2012年我們接了很多在醫生建議下剖腹生子的個案，發現大部分孕婦都會擔心寶寶沒等到“第一選擇”的良辰吉日就急著出世了，又或者醫生時間配合不到，而在“第二或第三選擇”的吉日把寶寶生出來，而感到憂心。

其實，人生沒有滿分，能拿到70、80 分的良辰吉日把寶寶生下來已經是天大的福氣了。需知道並不是每個寶寶都有皇帝命，也沒有那麼多BILL GATES，再說人生也沒十全十美。能夠在所提供的其中一個好日子來到這個世界就很不錯了，畢竟有太多的客觀因素會影響生產時間如產婦身體狀況、醫生時間及突發事件等等。

孕婦們產前都會十分焦慮，甚至生了寶寶後還會多次致電詢問。所以啊我常對我的團隊人員說孕婦懷胎十月是件極不容易的事，在應對孕婦們的諮詢時都要特別的耐心，畢竟肚子裡的是自己的骨肉、愛之結晶、一輩子的至親，所以才會特別的緊張。所以我們應該也當然給她們多一點的耐心、關懷、包容以及遷就。

其實說真的，為準媽媽們挑選一個好的良辰吉日並且能夠順利拿到其中一個好日子讓寶寶出世就是一種福氣。每當看到媽媽們在事後發給我寶寶的照片， 我都覺得有無限的光榮和滿足感。我們不要20-30分的人生，但也不要100分的人生，因為100分的人生就等於沒有進步空間，也不切實際。70-80分的人生才是最精彩的，你們覺得不是嗎？

In year 2012 through aplenty cases of “Date Selection for Caesarean” under the suggestion of Doctors, we found out that most of the pregnant women are nervous that they couldn’t give birth on “first choice” of auspicious time, or failed to meet the schedule availability of doctor to do so. As an alternative they gave birth on “second or third choice” of auspicious time which worried them.

As a matter of fact, being able to give birth on the auspicious date and time with the score of 70, 80 marks is still the greatest blessing for the baby; there isn’t any perfect life, not every baby is destined an emperor life, there is also only one Bill Gates. We need not to give birth on “perfect” date and time that score 100 marks; after all there are various dependence variables that might affect the outcome, such as maternal body condition, doctor availability, sudden emergencies and most importantly is the safety of mother and child.

Pregnant women felt anxious easily, even after gave birth they still inquiry the auspiciousness for date and time of birth. Hence I always tell my team that 10 months of pregnancy is a difficult task, treat every maternal with extra patience as baby is what matters most for them. I think we must pay extra, patience, tolerance and understanding towards the pregnant lady.

Being able to select an auspicious date and time of childbirth for every ready-to-be mother, no doubt this is the biggest wish and gift for both maternal and baby. I felt honor whenever I received photo of baby that sent by every dearest mother. This is also my greatest satisfaction.

Honestly. we do not want the life (Bazi) that scores only 20-30, however a perfect of score 100 is actually not perfect as there isn’t any improvement left in it and it is unrealistic to think so. Life that scores 70-80 is the most exciting and challenging. Happiness lies in contentment; don’t you think so?

剖腹生子 Pt.1

一直以來“擇日剖腹生子”都是備受爭議的話題，雖然有人贊成但也有不少人反對。我個人也非常推崇自然生產，若過於強求“吉日”而影響到孕婦和寶寶的安全是絕對不可取的！

話雖如此，但若是在醫生建議下剖腹生子的話，這也是“擇日剖腹生子”的其中一種方式。常有人說“擇日剖腹生子”是逆天而行，這可不盡然。舉例說明，從前人們只能自然生產，遇到突發狀況導致胎死腹中或母子不保的情況屢見不鮮，隨著世界進步，醫學不斷發展使人們多了選擇，產子不再只限於自然分娩，甚至可以剖腹生產，大大增加了孕婦及寶寶的生還率，難道這樣就不算是有違天意嗎？

所以啊，若醫生因安全理由而建議剖腹生產，再加上風水師的違反天意、逆天而行？反而，擇個好日子、好時辰把心愛的寶寶生出來，是體現為人父母者對寶寶的一番苦心和疼愛。讓寶寶一開始就擁有好的八字，也是一個好的開始，先天上的優勢再加上家長的循循善誘及本身後天的努力，做起事來事半功倍。

我再三重申，我並不贊成一定要剖腹生子！但是若是醫生建議之下，我們才加以配合。說實在的，身為風水師的我第一個所擇日生產的寶寶今年已經十二歲了，學業成績雖不是第一但每年都名列前茅，身體健康成長，每次看到她與父母在面子書上的互動，這樣溫馨的畫面，就是我最大的動力和滿足感。

“Caesarean on selected date and time” is always a controversial issue over the years, there are divergence of opinions to this dispute matter which voices of disagreements make the most of it. Personally I’m in favor of giving birth naturally as I highly value it;

I’m utterly against the act of overly insist on giving birth under “auspicious date and time” which highly jeopardizes the safety of both maternal and baby.

Yet, it won’t be much different from “caesarean on selected date and time” if doctor recommended that maternal to give birth by having caesarean section. Some often said that “caesarean on selected date and time” is against the natural order and providence, which isn’t an exactly spot on.

For instance, humans used to give birth naturally, they have no other options. Cases like stillborn or mother and baby died in the process in giving birth is nothing rare to us, these often take place during sudden circumstances when we least expect it and totally out of our control.

In highly developed contemporary civilization, humans are no longer bound to the only option of giving birth naturally as the progression of medical development enable humans to have more alternatives when it comes to giving birth, the introduction of caesarean section (commonly known as C-sec) greatly increases the survivability for both maternal and baby. Isn’t this advanced technology some kind of contrary to natural order or providence?

For that reason, if doctor recommends maternal to have C-sec due to safety reason, coupled with the coordination of Feng Shui Master on “caesarean on selected date and time” that intended for the sake of both maternal and baby, how can this be regarded as in opposition to natural order or providence? Instead, choosing an auspicious date and time to give birth reflects the greatest blessing and love by parents. Being able to have a good BaZi is a good start for baby; the innate advantages coupled with the guidance of parents alongside with his/her postnatal hard work, without doubt this will lead him/her to a brighter and better future.

I must reiterate that I do not advocate on “caesarean on selected date and time”. We will only do so if this is recommended by doctor. To be frank, as a Feng Shui Master, the first baby under case of “Caesarean on selected date and time” is 12 years old already. She achieved excellent ranking in academic performance every year and grows healthily. I felt amazed whenever I saw her interacts with parents on Facebook. Such warmth in their interactions is my greatest motivation and fulfillment.